We all have unconscious parts that have yet to open. We call these parts our trauma, our shadow, our inner child, our unconsciousness or our ego. They remain unconscious and frozen in time until they are ready to open and be integrated into the wholeness of our Being.
These frozen parts are frozen resources yet to be discovered.
Just imagine for a moment that you are a vast and unconditional space of pure Awareness (which you are) and that somewhere in that vastness is a small and tight little ball of undigested trauma. This is the energy of suppressed pain and the impetus for the survival self.
How does that tight little ball of pain know when it’s time to open?
Most of us know the signs that something inside is trying to get our attention because it hurts but our conditioning has trained us to turn away. We are always turning away from pain but Life has an natural momentum towards healing and wholeness.
We can begin to presence it by simply slowing down.
Awakening is as innate to the human being as a rose is to a rose bush. But when we continually turn away from our pain we are in resistance to Life’s natural and beautiful unfolding.
You are a natural and beautiful unfolding of consciousness.
Most of us don’t know ourselves as vast and unconditional. We have forgotten our nature and our connection to everyone and all things. We have identified with the small and tight little knot of pain we call me. We build elaborate and convincing identities to hide the smallness of our survival self and our imagined inadequacies.
We are not inadequate.
Until this knot is fully met it remains a tyrant at the centre of our Being. It won’t let us rest. It can’t let us rest. It’s job is to make itself known. As it takes more and more energy to uphold the false we get exhausted and the longing in our hearts for wholeness remains untended.
I read this quote recently, “to heal is to make something conscious and love it to death”. I love these words because this is the movement of our true and compassionate nature – towards pain – and when we align ourselves with it things begin to really shift.
Love is a direct and compassionate invitation to what hurts.
Love says, “I’m always here for you”.
It can feel a little bit like a death as our survival self begins to give way to wholeness and our false identities begin to dissolve. We are heavily invested in our false identities but let’s face it none of us have really believed in them anyway. I can’t tell you how many times people have expressed their fear to me that someone would see what is really going on inside them.
We keep ourselves so hidden from each other. We all struggle with something.
There are many ways that I support people in their healing but most importantly I invite them into a more compassionate and organic way of seeing and aligning with what is unfolding in their lives. As we start to move with the unfolding of our consciousness rather than against it we discover what we feared we had lost along the way – a realness that is simple and beautiful.
“One way or another we must find our way back to our own hearts.”
Love,
Candace ♡
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