If you are on a spiritual path it’s inevitable that you will come face to face with rage. This is really challenging for those of us who are spiritually inclined because we don’t like rage. Rage isn’t nice. It isn’t reasonable. It’s big and messy and nobody told us we would have to encounter such a primal impulse in our own physiology. The energy of rage wants to move. It wants to emote, bark, snarl, growl and show it’s fangs. It wants to yell and swear a lot. It contains a lot of personal agency.
“Rage and anguish exist underneath the veneer of niceness, no matter how sincerely a person mistakes the facade for her true self.” ~ Gabor Mate
Rage under pressure leads to the survival strategies of freeze and fawn. Falseness and self betrayal. Why not just let the whole thing come undone. It’s not going to happen all at once. Your physiology and conditioning will most likely not allow it but a little at a time is a great start. Do it responsibly but don’t be afraid of those things you have been wanting to say for decades. Say them. Lose some people in your life. Gain some agency and self respect. Be your own best friend. Our bodies want to release the burden of suppressed rage. It hurts. It deadens our vitality.
It’s responsible to release the emotional charge of rage. Rage is not our enemy but when it’s under pressure it’s easily triggered and reactive. We already know it can do great harm when provoked.
Ask for support from someone who can adequately mirror your rage. Some of my most powerful sessions with clients have been in joining them in their rage. It’s trust building and disinhibiting. It can also be fun. When rage is met and free to express it becomes something else but we can’t know ahead of time what that will be. Sometimes if we hit the right notes it’s even laughter.
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