When I’m working with clients who are experiencing a lot of anxiety from the impact of trauma, chronic illness or PTSD I like to slowly awaken the quality of curiosity. When we have a lot of fear and activation in our physiology curiosity may seem to be unavailable to us. But it is available. It just needs to be called forward in a way that feels safe and enjoyable.

“Curiosity will conquer fear even more than bravery will.”  ~  James Stephens

Even if you are unable to leave your bed because of a chronic illness you can begin to awaken curiosity.  The quality of curiosity is slow, interested, patient and open.  It’s childlike.

Curiosity changes our brain chemistry.  You can begin right now by simply looking at your hands as if it’s the very first time you’ve seen them. It could be. Take your time and just look. After you’ve looked for a bit bring your hands together and gently make contact. How does that feel? Notice the temperature of your hands. Is one warmer than the other? Are they soft? Are they rough? Add a little bit of hand cream or go through the motions of washing your hands. Be curious. Hold your own hand. Notice the joints and the tips of your fingers.  Did you know that these areas of the hand are little containers that hold tension and stress. 

You can do this many times a day and when you do you are activating the quality of curiosity which is a beautiful antidote to fear. It’s impossible to be afraid and curious at the same time.  Curiosity also shifts our focus away from pain and high activation in the body which can provide a much needed rest.

What you need is always available in this moment and maybe it’s as close as your own hands. Keep this so simple. Your nervous system loves curiosity.

All of Candace’s services are Trauma, PTSD, Complex Grief, Chronic Illness and Benzo withdrawal symptom sensitive.

Candace Kirby, Counsellor

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