A Different Kind of Looking

Often when I am working with clients they ask me, “how do I know what needs my attention when there is so much going on in my life?”. It’s a question that comes from the experience of overwhelm.  The answer is quite simple but it requires a different kind of looking.  

I tell my clients that the next thing is always very close. Closer than close. It’s what is showing up as tension, contraction or any kind of pressure in your body. It’s the themes that are playing out in your relationships. It’s the bad dream that seems to come out of nowhere. It’s the early morning dawning of something that hasn’t fully come into awareness – almost like a mirage.

It’s as if life has turned up an area in your psyche that is ready for healing.

Life is kind and when you slow down to a gentle, curious and compassionate kind of listening you will see what is here for your attention. It’s unavoidable.

When our bodies are full of undigested material it can be intense and difficult. It can feel like everything that has been suppressed is now pressing at the gate and overwhelming our capacity to tend to it. This is often when our defence mechanism of flight/fight/freeze takes over in an attempt to get away from the discomfort. 

This is where we ask for help from someone who can provide a sense of calm, safety and stability that allows the physiology to come back into regulation.  

“For real change to take place, the body needs to learn that the danger has passed and to live in the reality of the present.” ~ Bessel Van Der Kolk

All of Candace’s services are Trauma, PTSD, Complex Grief, Chronic Illness and Benzo withdrawal symptom sensitive.